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Marriage and Family Counseling
Choosing a marriage and relationship counselor
should be done together by the couple. Special consideration to the
communication styles of both people. Is the counselor able to successfully
anchor with each member of the couple, meaning can the counselor communicate in
the same style as each individual. People communicate in one of several
base styles; kinesthetic, auditory, or visual. By this we mean they use
words that express their perceptions of situations. i.e. A person may say
in response to what is said, "I see what you mean" vs.
" I hear what you are saying" vs. "I feel
bad about that" In each of these cases a person expresses themselves in
certain styles, and it is usually these styles that they most connect with when
listening to someone. A good counselor can pick up on this and adjust the
expressions that are directing at a client, thus anchoring them, and opening
that person up to receiving the information being presented. Failure to
anchor, results in the communication breakdown and unsatisfactory results in the
counselor maintaining that objective presence necessary to counsel two
individuals in a relationship without appearing like they are taking
sides.
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